Compliment
One day, I walked out of physiotherapy and bumped into an acquaintance. The conversation was brief — a hello and they said they liked my gym clothes. That was over ten years ago but I still remember it. That's the impact of a compliment.
One way to start a conversation is with a compliment. Look at what they are holding, doing or wearing for inspiration.
In social situations, people often have their guard up to avoid pain. Previous experiences of being hurt, embarrassed, rejected, or excluded teach us to be cautious. We learn to avoid being too open, too fast. A compliment can lower someone's guard. It communicates you like something about them. This boosts their confidence — making them feel good and establishing a safe space.
A compliment doesn't work if it's b#ll$h!t. Don't tell someone you like their outfit if you don't. People know when you lie. They keep their guard up and instead of feeling good, they feel cautious.
The compliment I got was good, but it would of been better with specifics. Something like:
I like your outfit, the color of your shorts and shirt go well together.
It helps communicate that you're being authentic. As opposed to a generic compliment you use on everyone.
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